It’s not how hard you can pull. It’s how easily you can let go.
Years ago, I learned a Taoist meditation called the Water Method*. Standing quietly, eyes closed, you bring your attention to your physical experience and learn to find, and eventually relax or “dissolve," tension and blockages. The more you practice, the more deeply you begin to feel, physically as well as emotionally. A while back, I took a moment to stand on my deck on a pleasant evening and try it again. I was out of practice and it took effort to stay focused. But after a few minutes, I found a knot of tension in my mid-upper back. It felt…